Coming Out

Things to Consider

coming out of the closet
Let Me Out Book chose to use the closet as the main representation of the barriers that we contain our worries and doubts in.


Coming out of the closet is a metaphor for an LGBTQ+ person’s disclosure of their sexual orientation or gender identity to themselves and others.



no roadmap to coming out

Your Journey
is Unique

Everyone’s coming out experience is unique and only you can decide when it is the right time to do so. Remember that you are still the same person, but now you are able to truly celebrate who that person is with others.

Coming out is about
you and no one else.

The first person we need to come out to is ourselves and that is the most important step.

Rainbow Wave

coming out of the closet

It is okay to
feel anxious.

Listen to your feelings and go with them! If a label helps you and feels right then great. If it doesn’t then don’t worry.

You can’t predict
everyone’s reaction.

Give people the chance to digest the news. It may come as a complete surprise. Surprise and shock doesn’t mean disapproval.

Your safety should
be a priority.

Always put your personal safety first.  You can always “test the waters” to gauge how your family feel about the LGBTQ community before you start opening up to them about this.

The LGBTQ+ community
has your back.

The LGBTQ+ community will be a resource for acceptance and guidance. Look for support in your schools GSA (Gay Straight Alliance) or your local community centre.

LGBT Community

Start living


You will be amazed at how free you will feel once you have come out. We all deserve to be who we are meant to be. Celebrate it and you will shine

Resource to Further Guide You

Human Rights Campaign

HRC has created a guide designed to help you through the process of coming out in realistic and practical terms. Download the guide here.



The Trevor Project

A new pocket-sized resource that can help you navigate your own coming out experience in a safe, thoughtful way. View the guide here.




Key things for you to think about and consider as you begin to share your identities around sexuality and gender. View here.



Gender Identity Chart

Our identities are not set in stone and can be fluid. THE SPECTRUM can help you visualize how you feel at any given time. View chart.



Ditch the Label

If you have homophobic parents but you want to come out or you’re thinking about it, give this article a read.



Center Link

Your  local LGBTQ community centre can provide face-to-face support and answers. Click here to find your nearest one.